The main issue is how to deal with people around us. How to make others feel comfortable talking to us. How to interact with friends, family, and relatives. To make ourselves realize the “importance” of others, there should be something to understand first. As Williams James of Harvard said: “We are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits.” Thus there is much more to explore and discover within a being. And for that discovery we need to take some guidance by reading books like“How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. Because by reading inspirational and motivational materials can lead us to induce it in pur real life. As Dr. John G. Hibben , former president of Princeton University, said, “Education is the ability to meet life’s situations.” Thus before applying to real life, there should be gain of knowledge. Also Bernard Shaw once remarked: “If you teach a man anything, he will never learn.” We learn by doing. Apply the rules you learn in every aspect of life. If we don’t apply we will forget them quickly.
Another aspect is that how to influence others and make them friends. To make friends now a day is not so easy but a person that seems like enthusiastic and energetic to others is more probably the first choice to make friend. According to my experience, it doesn’t matter how long you haven’t chat with an old friend. But the friendship remains same if a person wants to keep that same. The way friends used to converse in past, doesn’t change if you don’t let yourself change. Treat other the same as we do before.
There are some rules to influence people, like don’t criticize or complain others. As It seems like one tries to overcome the other person but it is to be noted that every person has its own individuality and personality. Every human have a uniqueness and different nature. Thus to listen other with great attention is very vital.
Freud calls “the desire to be great.”, “desire to be important.” Every person craves for importance. Also William James said: “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” Thus to make impact on others it is consequential to complement each other. As it provides confident to others in doing good deeds. It’s a right of every individual to have their proper space to live, think, and to become fitter. Don’t force people to talk about something they hesitate of talking. As I don’t force my friends to tell their secret things to me but if they want to share, they can.
Make others feel like you are genuinely interested in them. If I wanted to make friend, I put myself to do things for others like things that require time, energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. If someone even calls me I say “hello” with so much liveliness that the next person feels happy to converse with me. For any relationship, there should be show of interest. Thus it essential to be loving, friendly, understanding, and accessible to others.