“A dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love” -Dale Carnegie

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

That is very interesting philosophy by Dale Carnegie, a famous developer of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills, and the writer of “How to win friends and influence people”. He said that it’s in human nature that they are interested in themselves and they get attracted by the people who pay attention in them.

“The deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important.”

Aristotle the legendary Greek philosopher said, “Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual.” Man cannot live alone; it is society which motivates us live. We need love, care, attention, and appreciation which give us reason to return it back to the person from whom we are getting it. Dale Carnegie said that the deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important.

“She is my best friend because she cares for me.”

Let’s figure out the qualities of good friends. Visualize your best friend and try to answer this question that why he/she is our best friend?

For me, my best friends is very caring, supportive, she is interested in my personality and my way of life and she always gives me best advice; she helps me whenever I’m in trouble, and she has best solutions to my problems.

You have your answers in your mind. Now see, what is the most common word/scenario for judging a good friend? Of course, it’s “me”, “I”, “My”. She is my best friend because she cares for me. And if someone ask from her that why She (me) is your best friend, she will definitely reply in the same way. We can only win the attention, affection, and support of others if we show our interest in them.

It is said that a show of interest must be sincere. This is one of the most crucial rules of human relations. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way street-both parties benefit.

“Do good and good will come to you.”

Dale Carnegie in his book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” said that the desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing difference between mankind and the animals. It’s in human nature that he avoids hatters and he avoids criticism. We are made to love each other.

After reading this book I came to the point people take interest in you when you show enthusiasm toward them otherwise they aren’t interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves.

We human beings are self-centered creatures. We tend to see each situation form our own points of view, it creates a big flaw in our lives, and we start idealizing ourselves. We have to show respect and care towards people if you want to influence them even if you are getting nothing in return.

Do good and good will come to you!