Trust is Lethal?

It takes us decades to decide the course of the lives we want for ourselves. We choose our practices, methods, way of loving, level of trust, dreams, career paths (though vague), all by ourselves. It is a great disaster that we are not, never actually taught how to live as a team. Two entities that have been deciding and building on their lives independently are then forced on each other. Then the social influences and false religious information prevails, and only one entity thrives, crushing the mind mapping, thinking, methods, ways of catharsis of the other person. It creates conflicts and thus results in the most heartbreaking splits. When we find someone that we think we can rely on emotionally, it’s not their personality, it is the trust they put in us. But then the social consortium which leads to the dictation of one, forces us gradually to overlap the trust or the level of free-thinking and independent space we were giving the other person, thus they just overwrite their charter of life on them and think that they will protect them but actually what is being done, is that they are crushing them, slowly and permanently. We impose our way of loving and caring on the other person, completely forgetting about the life history, the degradations and deceptions one person was having, or the ways that person got over them, the hard work they put into it, forgetting everything. It is funny that even being a victim of this thing, I am still able to identify the root cause, but I think that people of the present are always too blind to take a deep breath and give a chance. It is because their life history and upbringing are now manipulating them. It is funny how our past training can manipulate us. It is similar to one scene in the TV show, Outlander, when a lady from the 20th century who is a healer, goes back to the 18th century, mystically. She knew methods of clinical diagnosis from two centuries ahead, but the people of the 18th century, obviously, could not even think of the possibility of things like that happening. So they just call her a blasphemous person. Or, Same like what happened to Galileo when he was killed in the name of the church for telling the truth.
When I think about this I finally understand the sayings of why, after 40 years of age a person cannot be changed. It’s heartbreaking yet a knot opener in so many ways. We, even after getting drastically hurt by mistrust of our closed one, still fail to provide it to the people we care for. Human being’s first craving is trust and independence. It is the building block to relaxation in relationships and thus in life.
Give people a chance!
Let them thrive!
#TryTrusting