Dealing with obstacles, and working to find new outlets in times of frustration.
Have you ever wanted something more than you can express, just to have the door shut in your face? I think we all have at some point, and though it sucks I think it brings about a wonderful opportunity.
Times of disappointment can be crushing, they can spin you into complete confusion. Plans you though you had set can be destroyed in seconds leaving you feeling empty and nervous about what the future holds.
Don’t grow hard.
The worst thing you can do is grow bitter about your plans being trashed. If you refuse to look at your new future with hope, then I can promise you’ll never be able to appreciate it. Be open to new things thrown your way, or you’ll always be bitter. You can never see how good a new opportunity is if you always think of it as second best.
Use this as an opportunity to grow.
One of the best things about having your plans ripped away from you is the fact that you have no where else to turn but to God. When you have no idea where to turn or what to do you can always find peace and hope in Him. I’m not saying you should only turn to Him in times of hardship, you should always be working on leaning in to Him and relying on Him fully. What I’m trying to say is that you have a HUGE opportunity to focus on relying on Him in these situations.
Sometimes we can make an idol of something we want, or even make an idol of ourselves in thinking we deserve something, and having those things stripped from us can put us in the perfect spot to be humbled before God.
Think about it…
Speaking of being humble (which I’ll be wildly honest is not something I’m always very good at) take the time to try to understand why it happened. Sometimes we just assume we deserve for things to go our way and are personally offended when they don’t. Take a step back and try to understand why it didn’t work out the way you would have liked. Maybe there’s something you need before you can take this step, maybe someone else really deserved it more. What can you do now? This may seem weird, but I’d say challenge yourself to live out in a way that shows you deserved whatever it was you were denied. Don’t get bitter, don’t be passive aggressive, and don’t act in such a way that you would confirm that it was best for you to be denied.
Discern the best next step.
This is the tricky part, and I can’t tell you exactly what to do here. You may still feel like this is the best route for you, and if you feel like fighting the door is the best thing, then fight. You my realize God has something better for you, and that you only need to find it. This step takes a ton of prayer, and more importantly a ton of submission to God’s will. You need to be fully aware of His will, and fully intent on achieving it. If He wants you to fight to open the door, He will be with you to see it through. If He wants you to walk away to find a better door, He will lead you there.
In conclusion, life is hard, but you only make it harder by not choosing to make the best of a bad situation.
Grace and peace,