The secret to take control of your life

If we go to the basics, we are driven by two incredible forces, yes I ONLY SAID 2, pain and pleasure.

We all try to avoid pain and pursue pleasure, a common example is that we want to have a fit body but we also love eating that amazing chocolate bar or we know we have to clean the house but we don’t really like to clean the toilet, kitchen, the floors, etc; so we go and check out Facebook instead.

If something makes us feel pain, we will try to avoid it and the opposite happens with pleasure, if something makes us feel good, we will pursue it.

We may hate pain, but it’s a great tool if you know how to apply it.

If we control what makes us feel pain, we can change our habits or behaviors to help us achieve our goals.

If you want to make a change, change what you associate pain to and make your actual state more painful that not changing.

Here is a interesting graph that shows how to logically beat procrastination or a habit by making a cost/benefit analysis in the long term.

How to apply it? Feel the emotion of procrastinating and imagine how your life will be if you don’t change, visualize all the things that you’ll miss because you didn’t made the changes necessary to have or do those things.

Feel how bad things will be and that will help you forge more pain for your actual situation, allowing you to have more leverage for change.

I’ve applied this technique many times. For example, I used to drink a little too much when I went partying with my friends and as you may imagine, the next morning I didn’t wake up as fresh as I would have liked.

I was tired of this and wanted to be productive the next mornings, so before going out partying I committed myself to not drink and thought about all the repercussions of the next day, my productivity and my health.

I didn’t stop there, I also visualized myself in the future and see what my life would be like if I kept this behavior. Now I barely drink and I’ve improved my quality of sleep, productivity, body and so much more.

How to stop procrastination? If you are so good in procrastinating, procrastinate in procrastinating,

“i’m too busy to do that! I got to work now! , focus in all the benefits of doing what you want to do and all the things that will be painful for not doing it.

Let me know in the comments below something that you are commited to change now and what pain and pleasure you associate to it before and after this post.

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