F*ck it. I’m Building a Sex Room.
A how-to guide for creating your sexual fantasy space.
By Athena Gayle
The sexual wellness industry is expected to boom in the next 10 years– like billions of dollars BOOM. People are demanding sexual empowerment. The empowerment to be open about their sexual preferences. The empowerment to explore their fantasies. The empowerment to be safe in their sexuality.
It’s a great time to focus on YOUR sexual pleasure. And it’s the perfect time to establish a space in your home for intimacy and all your sexy curiosity.
Time to say f*ck it– I’m building a sex room.
First things, first…
Pick your sex space
If you’re lucky enough to have an empty space in your residence to use as your own personal sex room, that’s awesome! Or maybe, you have a large basement or living area where you can build an added room. In this case, you’re working with a blank slate– you have a space you can completely engineer into your sex exploration room.
You’ll want to ensure this space can be secured from any prying eyes (like tiny child eyes). Sex play is great, but you don’t need to bring unwilling participants into the game.
If your bedroom is gonna double as your private sex room, clear out all the clutter. Do you really wanna get all sexed up if you’re surrounded by laundry? Nope. Channel your inner Marie Kondo and organize your room. Added tip– think twice about the pictures you keep in the bedroom. Instead of snaps of your kiddos or grandma barb surrounding your peripheral, invest in some sexy photos of you (and your partner).
Consider your vibe
Okay– so this is where you might get a bit overwhelmed. You want a sex room but you don’t want a sex dungeon (or maybe you do, that’s cool too). The first step, take in the world around you. What colors make you feel sexy? What textures titillate your senses? Communicate this with your partner (because it’s their sex space too).
Wanna create a sexier bedroom? Tap into your ideal sexy aesthetic.
Sex therapists recommend avoiding colors like grey or green because they promote relaxation and sleep. But, if green is YOUR color– choose one with jewel tones like peacock feather or a deep, brooding forest green. And if grey is your jam– go with dark charcoal, edging on black.
Textured wallpaper is a unique addition to creating sex appeal in your space. Or find wallpaper with a naughty design. Especially if you’re into a white “clean” look– wallpaper, textures, and unique flooring will boost the intimacy you’re craving.
Decide on your budget
The most cost-efficient way to build a sex room?
Just sexy-up your bedroom. You can add sensuality and sexify your space with a few easy tweaks. Like repainting, buying new sheets, and adding a piece of kinky sex furniture like a swing or sex lounge.
Speaking of new sheets, this is the TIME to invest in those ultra-swanky, high-quality sheets you’ve been putting off. Sex therapists recommend neutral colors like cream, stone, rose, or clay.
If you’re ready to spend your moolah, sit down and figure out a reasonable budget. Here are some examples of what money could get you:
$ 500 (ish) — paint, luxury sheets, an inexpensive sex swing, and a small sex toy.
$1,000 (ish) — paint, luxury sheets, a sex lounge chair, and a custom bondage set.
$3,000 (ish) — paint, luxury sheets, a couple of sex furniture pieces, a custom bondage set, and a sex toybox.
Of course, the skies are the limit on how much you want/can afford to spend on creating your ultimate sex fantasy room. Choose a budget and stick with it.
Explore your kinks and fetishes
The whole point of your sex room makeover is having great sex.
You’re already neck-deep into the sexual fantasy conversation– why not throw in a little kink exploration?
So grab your partner (or yourself) and head to a local sex shop. You’ll get to peek at different types of toys and let your creative…errr… juices flow. At a sex toy store, you can literally feel the floggers, test the slappy-ness of riding crops and paddles, and touch the velvety dildos. Wanna make it a date night sextivity? Dress up a bit, have a little drinky drink, and take it slow sexploring the aisles.
This is your time to let your curiosities take over and sink into fantasyland. Don’t forget about consent– it’s important both you AND your partner agree on the direction your sex room is heading. If you don’t feel comfortable, you won’t want to participate in sexy time.
Most importantly, have fun! You’re exploring new sexual worlds (yay!).
Invest in sex toys
Sexy date night exploration– check! Now it’s time to buy sex toys. Maybe you bought some during your sexploration adventure or used the time to discover your sexual taste. No matter what, sex therapists recommend purchasing a vibrator– because most vagina-having people need clit stimulation to reach orgasmic bliss. And gurl, the possibilities are endless in the vibrator world.
Whatever sex toy tickles your fancy, make sure you’re choosing quality options. Something body safe and non-toxic.
For all your other toy options, you don’t need to break the bank. Check out these budget-friendly ideas.
And while you’re at it, grab a good sex toy cleaner.
Budget-friendly kink furniture
Again, you don’t need to ruin your budget (or your credit score) by purchasing ultra-pricy kink furniture for your sex room. Here are a few cost-efficient options.
Pick one or two favorites OR buy the whole lot (BTW the total cost of everything listed above is $1,790).
Don’t forget the intimacy
When you’re not in full BDSM, kink mode– take the time for quieter, more intimate sessions. It doesn’t need to be spanking all day, erryday, ya know? Dim those lights, turn on some lovemaking music and reconnect with yourself or your partner.
It’s important to keep the passion alive. Maybe play a sexy game or dig deep into your long-term relationship.
The Bottom Line ⬇
Create a room to broaden your sexploration and open you up to new sexual experiences.
Athena Gayle is a Sex Copywriter. She’s collaborated with sextech startups, sex coaches, and wellness coaches. She loves working with brands that want to build a community with their audience. Athena is passionate about the kink community and promoting great sex lives. She’s living her best life in Midwest, USA with her husband, daughter, and four doggies. You can connect with Athena at thesexcopywriter.com or athena@athenagaylellc.com.
