It’s Friday night and you’re out with your boys. You see a hottie at the bar, walk over, and engage her in conversation.
As you speak, she looks at you intently, hanging on to every word.
After a pause, she smiles and says, “Where have you been all my life?” as an endorphin rush consumes your body.
You’re oozing with confidence and start planning your first date.
The reality is different. Because in real life, you’re afraid. You fear that if you try to engage her, she’ll reject you.
You then make excuses for yourself, such as, “Why would she pay attention to me,” or “I’m not attractive enough.”
As you’re thinking this, another guy walks over and starts chatting her up. This annoys you, but also relieves you.
You rationalize your cowardice by telling yourself, “See? It wasn’t meant to be.”
Other guy: 1
And this scenario plays over and over again for the rest of the night. You then go home and feel like shit.
It’s time for a change. Here are 3 simple tips to confidently approach and attract beautiful women.
It’s no secret: Women love confident men. But how do you develop the confidence to safely approach that hottie and sweep her off her feet?
Before we dive into this, we must first establish two things:
- Forget about pickup lines. They’re cheesy, lazy, and will almost guarantee a trip to Rejectionville (I’ll tell you what to say instead later).
- Even the most confident men face rejection. Rejection is part of the process and will help you develop the mindset to confidently approach beautiful women (and not give a flying rat’s ass when it does happen).
There’s a great formula from motivational coach Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles, that will help build your confidence and change the way you think about rejection.
It’s called E + R = O, and it stands for Events + Responses = Outcome.
This formula works in any scenario, and basically states that how you respond to an event, good or bad, will determine your success (or failure) down the line.
So, next time you face rejection, don’t feel angry, disappointed, or discouraged.
Instead, think about what went wrong, maintain a positive attitude, and take this experience as a valuable lesson.
There’s nothing women dislike more than a boring man.
That being said, DON’T LIE. Women have an innate ability to sniff out liars. And once you’re caught in a lie, it’s game over.
Also, skip the mundane talk. Resist the urge to ask things like, “So, what do you do?” or “How long have you lived in this city?”
Rather, look for an opportunity to throw in a cool personal story. Everyone loves stories, and the more good stories you have, the more interesting you’ll become.
If you can’t come up with a good story, ask her to share one of her favorite personal stories, pay attention to the details, and be ready to ask questions afterward.
You’ll score points for being a good listener and she’ll be more willing to engage in conversation.
Again, DON’T LIE.
Women love honesty. They’re so used to hearing men brag and lie about so many things that when they finally meet an honest man, they’re caught by surprise.
Just because you don’t own a beach home in Fiji doesn’t mean she’ll automatically brush you off.
She simply wants to know that you’re a hard-working man and that you’re passionate about reaching your goals. That’s it.
Women appreciate men who have goals, and I’m sure that you have plenty of them. Openly share your big plans for the future and before you know it, you’ll be on your way to planning your first date.
I’d like to know your thoughts, tips, and suggestions when it comes to approaching and engaging beautiful women. Please share your experiences with me or ask me a question in the comments section below!