LISTEN THE UNSPOKEN WORDS
What is man ? what he wants? What are basic needs of life ? what other people around one requires ? Can he spend his life by just focusing on himself ? No, man is defined as a “SOCIAL ANIMAL”. Through ups and downs, through thick and thin , all he want is to be listened, understood , and loved. In this mysterious world, where busyness is every where, we cannot fulfill ourselves by our work and wealth only . All we want is to be listened , loved. This is a fundamental element of life. We cannot spend our life by merely expressing ourselves to world.
There are times of utter despair when people want attention, we all want that and it’s a human nature. It is natural. We cannot just spend our life and make relations with our tall talks. Saying with regret there are many people who just focus on making themselves interesting to people. And it does not work this way, relations do not work this way.As Alfred Adler, the famous Viennese psychologist, wrote a book entitled What Life Should Mean to You. In that book he says:
“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. Its is from among such individuals that all human failures spring”.
After reading this book all I comprehended is that the heart of matter is to root out selfishness and bring into existence the ability to listen , cure and heal. We all want to be loved by people and the royal road is to treat the people in the way you wanted to be treated by others.
“If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm”
We can only make friends if we listen to the unspoken words of them . I define unspoken words as feelings they want to tell somebody, feelings they want to be asked by people when they are stuck in sufferings.
There was a cumbersome period when I felt dejected ,depressed. We all face such periods in our life. What I wanted was to be listened by somebody , I wanted to share how I feel .The very day I realized the need of people to be listened. So I decided to ask people about them , listen to what they want to say but cannot , make them to share with me as this was the thing I wanted in my rough time. This thing actually works . I can prove by my own example .After reading the book of Dale Carnegie , I felt much enthusiastic to ask my friends about them, only abou them. So I just took my mobile and texted the friend I did not contact for couple of weeks. Alas! I should have bothered why she did not contact me for a weeks but that’s a human nature we sometimes are so lost in our life that we don’t bother people. So , I asked h about her, what is she doing , where is she and a lot of such questions but just about her. There was a point where I came to know she did not contact me because she was suffering from some issues. And I felt so bad for her and talked to her for so long to make her pacify . All I did was to listen her. Instead of making myself interesting I made her believe that I was interested in her , interested to listen and yeah I made myself interesting by being interested in her . No doubt she was pacified because all a human wants is to be listened.