The interested challenge

Fizza Ghauri
Jul 27, 2017 · 4 min read

’Become genuinely interested in other people’’

It just seems a phrase but it has deep meanings. Chapter from the Dale Carnegie’s book, ‘’ how to win friends and influence people ’’has deep meaning of being interested in people’s life. People are interested in you when you are interested in them. He said in his book people are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves morning, noon and after dinner. The most interesting example from this reading is that author scheduled the birthdays of friends in his calendar in beginning of the year, it shows his interest in his friends and his care about his friends and their important life events.

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If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, become interested in people. I learned from this reading that if you want other people love you have to be an effective listener. Listen to the problems, listen to happiness, listen to the stories, their life events, listen what is happening in their life then they will become interested in you. Tell me who don’t like to feel important? As you are asking your friends about their life routines, it makes them feel special, it makes them that they are important for you, you want to listen them. They consider you as a well-wisher. Do not just take about yourself I have done this. I am a great. Talk to friends about their life routine.

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If you listen to your friend, talk with them about their life, about their hobbies, being interested in them makes them automatically interested in you. People are interested in what you can do for them. Become involved with your friends on a common point or on a common discussion.

Many time I have experienced the magic of being interested in my life, an example of this is, I was sitting in a main cafe of my university, a girl came and she had awesome painting in her hands. As I am interested in arts and crafts and paintings. I saw the painting and I asked have you painted it? What’s your name? from which department you are? And believe me she keeps answering my questions. I flattered her painting that’s it’s just amazing, it’s beautiful, and I noticed as I was saying all this she had a positive smile on her face. Then I asked her can I take a picture of this painting and she just replied yeah sure, yeah sure. Her response obviously had revealed me that she is happy when I am taking a picture. She was actually filled with happiness.

It shows that I am interested in her painting. Then she asked me from which department you are? What’s your degree? And our conservation goes for an hour. I think it’s the magic of being interested.

Another example, I was studying in library and on my front desk a student was writing chemical formulas on her note book. I thought she is a student of chemistry, I questioned her you are a student from chemistry department? she replied and we both get involved into a conversation she told me that I am a master’s student, I also do a job, she is a chemistry teacher at a school she was doing her degree in evening programmes due to her job. So, you can estimate that I came to know a lot about her. When you apply the trick of being interested in life of other people it actually works, people become interested in you.

People are interested in you, when you are interested in them apply this in your daily life routine and you will see results in a couple of days. And most importantly nothing happens without investing time. So, invest time in people.

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