With the right mindset, you can win even if you lose.

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“Another World Cup article? Et tu, Phillipus?”

Unless you’ve been living under a rock (or you’re American), you’re aware that FIFA World Cup — probably the most popular sporting event in the world — has recently come to an explosive end.

So why am I writing about this? My domain is psychology and mental strength, plus I’m totally not into sports at all.

Well, I’m making an exception, because this is an exception.

But unlike most news outlets in the world, I want to imprint you with lessons in mental strength that you can apply no matter who you are.

Feeling down? Read this.

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Hey there,

you may not know me, but I’ve written this letter specifically for you. Yes, you. I know you’re feeling pretty down right now and that your current situation makes the world seem like a shitty gutter full of misery.

So I’ve decided to sit down and write you a good ol’ fashioned motivational letter. No deep profound thoughts, no life contemplation, just straight pure energy to jumpstart you back into beast mode.

I’m not here to tell you to love yourself and that everything is going to be okay — you already know that. But despite knowing it…

The way you see the world defines how you behave in it.

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Mindset is a set of values, beliefs, and assumptions that determine the way you think and, therefore, the way you act. By mindset, people usually refer to a person’s perception — how they see the world.

Your perception of the world around can differ from seeing everything as positive, negative, or anywhere in between. And the way you perceive situations will be the driving force behind how you behave and react to them. Your outlook affects not just what decisions you make in life, but what you do when life makes decisions for you.

To help me illustrate my point…

This phrase is often used as encouragement, but it is the worst advice you can listen to. Here’s why.

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If you ever felt unhappy with your life, chances are that someone has told to “just be yourself” or “accept yourself the way you are”.

The usual idea behind “just accept yourself” is that you shouldn’t care about other people’s opinion. So your close friends and family will encourage you to use this phrase as a personal “fuck you” to the haters.

But this is, without a doubt, one of the worst things you can adopt in your personal philosophy. And when I say this advice is terrible, and that you should never accept yourself, you’re probably thinking something along the lines of:

How DARE you say that? Why shouldn’t I accept myself the way I am? There’s nothing wrong with me!

For the most…

There’s a real way to unleash the “cool”, in a way that’s not destructive or harmful.

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Fight Club is one of those movies that gets you thinking; not only is it considered a cult classic, it influences how people think about their lives and society in general.

It has a dark and gritty style with a pessimistic undertone, and often makes it seem like the urban environment is shitty and that you aren’t as cool as you think. However, there are certain concepts that you can directly apply to your way of thinking to drastically improve your lifestyle.

The personality of the Narrator, whose name is never revealed, symbolizes the current version of ourselves: Someone who…

It’s the mindset that makes a hero, not their powers.

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Superhero movies have been all the rage for the past decades. There’s a good reason for that: these universes, dominated by Marvel and DC Comics, offer a great insight into the psychology behind how people deal with loss and trauma.

Fans often compare superheroes and argue who would win in a fistfight and, while it may be fun, it’s not really productive as far as real-world application goes. So I decided to take it a step further and analyze two of the most popular comic book characters — Batman and Superman — and do a comparative analysis of their psychology.

Understanding how this statement holds true, despite being overused and often misunderstood.

Most of us have heard this phrase a number of times but never gave it much thought. We brushed it off convinced it was just something our friends and family tell us to make us feel better.

Later on, we tried it and wished for something. We wished hard with all of our might but it didn’t come true. We worked hard, sacrificed a lot, yet we still failed miserably. If I’m a paraplegic I can never do parkour, no matter how much I want to or how much work I put in.

So how can that saying possibly be…

Phil Janecic

Founder of Mind of Steel | I help people change their mindset with psychology | https://themindofsteel.com

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