“TERF” is accurate though. It stands for Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist and even going only on what you write in your response its true. Your view does not include trans-women, and in fact, you even contradict yourself by saying that biology is NOT destiny, but wait, biological sex still matters. Especially the penis. Dear lord, what a world it would be if people who are the woman gender don’t have a full set of ladybits! Which kind of excludes cis-women who have had mastectomies, hysterectomies, etc. Are they not important now that they can’t have babies or periods? What about people who are intersex who represent as women, but technically their genes aren’t either male or female? Also, sexuality is fluid and different for everyone. If someone who is attracted to women starts talking to a trans-woman and finds out later on and is no longer attracted, well that’s alright because different strokes for different folks.

No one is denying that childbirth or menstruation aren’t a big focus of feminism. There are a lot more cis-women than trans-women so I don’t think it’s going to be a worry that they would completely take over feminism. It’s more that people are trying to say that there are other issues related to the woman gender that have importance, too.

I think the biggest disconnect is that radical feminism is a great theory, but a very difficult practice without being a TERF. Not all radical feminists are TERFs. I think that it stems from the fact that radical feminism tries to take down the system/structure of patriarchy, but everyone else is still living in it and making it work. By default there is an immediate disagreement with how the world should work, and unfortunately, strong beliefs either way do not end well or are rejected by a majority of people. To me radical feminism is the pipe dream of what could be, but after a while, reality kicks in and sometimes you have to work with what you have to make things better for who you can.