Hi Angry, thank you for another great article, you are the reason why I love to read Medium.
I realised a week ago that I’m anxious about relationships and why are relationships my whole life. All the times unfocused, still talking with my head and having fantasies about different life where I’ll be loved enough.
I know that feeling shame because knowing about being ashamed is (now) typical for my type.. and I know there are some tools how to deal with this type of anxiety, but.. I can’t deal with reality where I’m officially broken. I literally have to start my life from the scratch.. looking for stable type of man (or someone comfortable to assure me from time to time). I have to stop to talk with myself, blame myself and stay positive. But how? It’s a long time run and I’m not sure if I can handle it myself. It’s.. ok? It’s ok to tell myself “C’mon girl, it should be easy?” It will be?
I guess we should focus more on repairing ourselves before going into relationships. Because as you said.. we can’t expect that the other one will repair/complete us..
