Women, in general, are conditioned to hinge our value and self worth in how well we can please others, what we can provide for them, how well we take care of them — because our safety, our social status, our success in the world depends on it. We are even inundated with the message that our ability to please translates to some kind of power. Our culture says that women can control the world by wielding pleasure like a weapon. Songs and films and novels all uphold the archetype of the temptress using feminine wiles to manipulate men into fulfilling her wants and needs. But what happens when that woman can’t please anymore? What happens when her needs clash with her ability to perform? And how powerful are you if your power is stripped when you become undesirable, unliked?