Tech Team Tuesdays: Don’t Seek Revenge
It’s simply not a constructive activity.

When someone has wronged you, the first reaction may be to strike back at them. It seems natural; he hits you, you hit him back. There many problems with this, however.
First of all, attacking in kind is not part of your job description. There is no business value being created when you’re attacking another employee. You’re merely acting out your own personal desires. Time spent plotting your revenge is time not spent advancing the product.
The second thing is that it keeps your focus on the past, which you cannot control or change. To make progress, you have to always be looking forward.
Thirdly, when you attack back, you’re as much of problem as the guy who wronged you. Now the organization has two people with serious behavioral problems.
Fourth is the negativity and anger you’ll be carrying with you all the time. It will always be a distraction. You won’t enjoy your job anymore. It will be like a heavy weight on your shoulders.
Finally, when you do strike back, that will just start a feud. The jerk will strike back at you again, and it will become a never-ending battle.
So given all that, it behooves you to seek out alternatives. The good news is that people with bad behaviors typically don’t last long in an organization. This means that sometimes you don’t have to do anything.
Being the better person demonstrates maturity. The person who can shrug off petty attacks and stay focused on delivering business value is usually recognized in the organization as a strong person. Someone who cares more about business goals than personal agendas. These are the people who get rewarded.
Ultimately, consider the company’s needs. They are paying your salary; what would they want you to do? Give the business what they want.
