Validation and Borderline Personality Disorder

  • Having lots of meaningless sex with random people.
  • “Testing” our favorite person or significant other to see if they really care about us.
  • Throwing out self deprecating comments in order to fish for compliments.

HOW TO GET VALIDATION IN A HEALTHIER MANNER

DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF AND VALIDATE YOURSELF.

GET TO THE CORE ROOT OF WHY YOU NEED VALIDATION.

  • Having showered daily
  • Done my eyebrows and eyeliner
  • Weigh less than 140 lbs
  • Dressing in clothes that made me feel comfortable

BE UPFRONT WITH YOUR LOVED ONES ABOUT HOW YOU NEED VALIDATION AND NEED IT OFTEN.

REMOVE FORMS OF “VALIDATION” THAT MAKE YOU FEEL WORSE

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The Fractured Light

The Fractured Light

A blog about living resiliently in the face of borderline personality disorder.