hegemonic heteronormativity

And one finds this where, exactly? All my experience (not inconsiderable) tells me that among men who prefer women, being in charge is just about the last thing on the table with that deal.

Golly, I do so pity feminist women. A whole world of men ready, willing, able, and practically begging to do what they are told by women, and these few, these clueless few, are apparently so aggrieved just at being women, that they stubbornly refuse to grasp that this is how it works.