There is a surplus of articles here on medium written by young adult females, lamenting the superficiality of young male adults…. their supposed selfishness, childishness….. and the lack of serious commitment to creating & providing children (FOR those women).
In a way, you are missing my larger point every bit as much as my good friend the professor is. She and I have a longstanding debate, years long, over to what extent and in what ways human biology drives human decision-making. I agree with her a lot more than she wants to admit, but she’d probably say the same back to me….
Anyway, I don’t know where you are from or what sort of setting it is, but one thing that continually bugs me about so many summations of American life, is how much they are anchored in an urban-suburban, mostly college-educated mindset, as if those tiny blue spots on the map back in November were the whole of what is relevant or even observable about who we are as a people.
But then, wasn’t it that vast red-dyed remainder, as in most of the country in geographic terms, which saw to it that Hillary the sociopath’s career was due for retirement? I assure you, that the norms of family life, of career choices, of pathways of life generally, can be a whole lot different in those vast swaths of red, than the blue-spot lens is even capable of spotting.
Men ARE getting married, out here in Flyoveria. Men DO want families. Couples DO stay together. And, more than I personally ever witnessed in decades spent myself in deep-blue college towns and capitol cities and urban sprawls, women are in charge.
I’m not sure why so few seem to grasp this, but there would basically be no “conservative movement” at all in the United States, were it not for the unquestioned, effective, powerful, insightful leadership of:
conservative women.
The advances made in terms of career achievements, and in terms of being virtually unchallenged heads of households, among conservative women, all over this uncharted wilderness that the Democrats couldn’t even be bothered to ask for a vote, outpaces anything like any similar achievements by urbane and essentially hostile feminist women in those blue enclaves.
As in, not even close. If women really wanted status and power and leadership roles, all they have to do is, literally, get out of town. When it comes to “flyover country”, that does happen to be MOST of the country, and contrary to urban myth, real people really live out here.
And the way you portray things, the way so many people seem to assume are the norms of all of American life, makes me wonder what planet you’re writing from, honestly.
