In the spirit of:
People’s one-off comments, spontaneous quips and even satirical cartoons can often get closer to the real truths than big fat text books of convoluted theories.
I must say that the following:
I think men easily fall for presenting themselves as someone that women will accept, which is almost a mirror image of the situation for women. Of course, men are very surreptitious about doing this; they feel they have to look in charge. So they act. Don’t be fooled!
, probably explains why the myth that there is any such thing as “patriarchy” (or ever has been) still refuses to go away. If women had the least notion, or would believe what they ought to be able to perceive with their own senses, of how much of a man’s life is expended in trying to acquire and manage women’s approval, or deal with the dire consequences of not having it, they would recognize that they, by merely being female, have been the heads of the human household, all along.
Amber had alluded to some apparent paradox in my both disavowing feminism, and valuing women. I find this no paradox at all, and tried to explain: it is feminism, which devalues women, and in a way that men at the very core find intolerable and impossible to coexist with in any way but to be anything but manly in our dealings with them. Feminism, by obsessing on the most aberrant and exceptional and atypical qualities in a very few men who lack the natural deference to female requirements which most men indeed have, makes it utterly impossible to respect any woman as a woman when she is promising not to reciprocate the one and only thing men require from women in return: basic approval for simply being what we are.
It may seem expedient for men to adopt feminist rhetoric because it seems fitting to regard women as our equals, but while we’re on the subject of being fake for coexistence’s sake, this is as insincere and unnatural a code of male conduct as there is. Men don’t want women as equals, we want them to be the superior beings they are, and all the while feminist women lower themselves to this carping caricature of permanent disaffection and send the one message to men that men stand to benefit the least from: that we will never, ever be capable of making up to them just how much they despise themselves for being female, and us for not having to be.
Feminism presents men (with any manhood) a hopeless and unwinnable proposition; it ought to be no surprise to feminist women that the only men who pay lip service to their nonsense propaganda, are hardly worth regarding as men in their own right at all: players, panderers and pickup artists, who tell women what they want to hear as a matter of strategy, and not as one of respect at all.
