Ron Collins
Nov 8 · 2 min read

Therapy or counseling is essential, if you can access and afford it.

Whatever.

Once upon a time I used to think like this, all of it: that all those secrets and lies and cover stories and avoided subjects needed to be brought into the light, that a reckoning must be made, that those responsible needed to own their deeds and consequences while those affected deserved some sort of acknowledgement, yada-yada.

I even made the attempt to endure this so-called “therapy” and “counseling” at different times. I think it was that pack of con-artists and charlatans who finally got me convinced that all this rhetoric (like “breaking the curse”, for example) was little more than ad copy for the sustaining of cash flows for a business model which relies primarily on a clientele’s faith in some eventual cure never being confronted by the embarrassing fact that the trade has no such thing to offer. The best advice it will ever be able to distribute being “it is what it is, grow up and deal with it”, it instead indulges its clientele in an endless rigmarole of obfuscation and self-obsession amounting to little more than rude, intrusive dignity-lowering mental torture, teasing them all the while that there is something they need to do, but damned if the ones being paid to say what that is will ever deign to spell it out and send folks on their way.

“Therapy” and “counseling” are essentially bourgeois luxury items, even having become bizarrely regarded in some circles as a combination of everyday necessity and badge of status. The whole schtick relies session by session on the client being brought no closer to any solution but also no closer to realizing how deeply they are being had.

Save your money: you are not going to get any more advanced or nuanced or applicable advice than “it is what it is, grow up and deal with it”, and for a certainty it will never be any of those people who give it to you. That would ruin their entire meal ticket.

You, and the prolonging of your suffering, that is.

    Ron Collins

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