What I haven’t told you is I was a mother who ran.
What I haven’t told you, is that I fully sympathize. Believe me, I was raised within an entire generation of children growing up in abusive households. There was never any way for me to know the full stories of what went on in any of them, but I am not naive, not heartless and not some woman-hating MGTOW who blames all human evil on the ladies.
And for all that has happened to me and SO many other innocent men, still I am inclined to take you at your word.
These engineered dismantlings of fatherhood tend to work the same way that false allegations of rape and sexual misconduct do: to discredit and cast doubt on the actual victims.
The history of such social trends tends to go in cycles. There may come a time, when a woman in your very situation will go to the officials and tell her story, and they just roll their eyes and go, “right. Where have I heard that before, hahaha…”
(And, there is EVERY possibility, that among those skeptical, jaded officials doubting the woman’s story, will be no small number of female judges, police officers and attorneys. As for social workers, they will probably always be liberal feminists. It beats working for a living.)
So many women have abused the powers and resources and authority of programs like VAWA (you really should read up on it, this law and its programs have altered the course of history as much as any war, if not more so), that there may indeed come a time when it is a default assumption that a woman’s claims of a man’s abuses are just laughed off, just like rape accusations had been for generations.
It is no coincidence, that the Violence Against Women Act was first snuck through Congress as a rider on a Clinton-sponsored “omnibus” crime bill of far broader proportions, given almost no media coverage and even less scrutiny, during the OJ Simpson trial.
Just as an anecdote, a few years back here in Oklahoma I got into a friendly chat across the desk with a young lady who was a courthouse secretary in the judges’ offices about some of this. She was young, married (according to the ring and her demeanor), visibly conservative, probably a mom, and an eyewitness to more of these cases than I will ever be. When I mentioned VAWA protocols that judges and police and other officials are constrained by, she leaned forward, lowered her voice, looked around, and said, “honestly, between you and me, sir, I think most of these women are just plain making it up. They know they will get whatever they want if they do…”