Ron Collins
Jul 28, 2017 · 2 min read

For example a woman will be more attracted to a man who is ready and willing to protect her. Most men will feel good about the woman feeling safe with him.

You and I are gonna have to part ways on this one, I reckon, Lana.

This “he makes me feel safe” crap really sticks in my craw. If that is what a woman finds attractive, I daresay it’s the protection, and not the man, she is attracted to. What does this make him? A bodyguard?

Women, first off, are rarely in any real danger, as you are consistently the first to point out, Lana. And secondly, the last creature on earth I’d want to tangle with, is a cornered woman on full self-preservation mode. Women are capable of a fearlessness and ferocity in protecting themselves that is awesome and terrifying to behold, and it isn’t any man’s fault if a given woman never learned that she has this capacity within herself.

You’re the one always talking about biology and nature and all that: does a mama bear or lioness need the male to protect her? Hardly. So what is this odious obligation placed on men to relieve women of having to learn to protect themselves? I say it’s women being lazy, and men being used, and women manipulating men by their egos, when in reality this protection thing is the last thing any woman really needs from any man.

If all a woman finds attractive in me is that she supposedly feels safe with me, that’s a big red flag, not a go-ahead sign in my book. I’d rather a lady be interested in me, as a man, and not as a human sacrifice-in-waiting in case she decides she needs me to save her.

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    Recognizing that women have no need of any special status granted them by men is as respectful of women’s abilities as it is protective of men’s