for all your endless anti-feminism ranting, you seem to truly value women

You will never get my schtick, Amber, until you recognize that for my way of thinking, the above quote by you is a comment on an effect, and its cause.

Yes, I value women. Which is precisely why I so reject and eschew feminism. All I have ever seen feminism do for women is make them suspicious, easily offended, addicted to bad relationships, and miserable. And it turns the men in their lives into either pathetic sycophants whom the gals despise and disrespect for not acting bloody well like men, or else they turn them into absentee villains of opportunity on whom they can blame everything that ever goes wrong in their lives.

I have never once seen a couple made of a feminist woman and a man, who were what I would consider in the company of equals together. Such a man had damn well better walk three obedient paces behind Her Highness and grant her every wish before she even wishes it, or he is summarily disposed of. I have seen this pattern play out again and again and again.

The couples I have seen last and thrive and go on to be the leaders of large and well-rounded families, are as much a mystery to each other and as vexed or even irritated by the differences between them after half a century, as they were the day they married, if not more so. “Compatibility” is just a lazy code word for “if you aren’t perfect in every way I require, you’re toast”, and yet men and women both keep trying this utter failure of a formula, making their opposite-sex relations into some kind of world-changing project based on feminist principles (whatever those are this week) and it never, ever, EVER works out.

What was that thing about the definition of insanity? Same flawed methods, same failed results, and they just keep trying anyway? THAT is how I see feminism and what it does not for but TO both women and men.