Above is the first paragraph of the first chapter of my first book, The Garden and Other Stories. A collection of short stories that blend together genres including both science fiction, and fantasy.

I was asked the other day what my favourite line from the book was, which is almost an impossible question. After a lot of thought I decided on this one, the first line.

It’s something I feel often, and think a lot about. It’s a weird mixture of nostalgia, melancholy and sadness and it’s comforting as well as daunting. …

Forgive me for blocking out Sakura’s face, I find the more I see people’s babies online the more I start to dislike them, so i thought I’d save you the trouble.

I’d like to use this platform to point a few things out, without going into loads of detail about the story because it’s quite honestly very, very boring.

For all the readers outside the UK, the aforementioned name is a politician who broke quarantine rules by travelling over 200 or so miles to go somewhere else. He is now being vilified every single day in the news. People want him sacked and are directing all their frustration and anger at him in an absolute avalanche of hate and nonsense.

First of all, ask yourselves this (those of you who are…

Any author reading that title may or may not have heart palpatations…

I’ve always likened staring into a blank page, whether it be on paper or my laptop, like staring into a black hole. A perfectly crisp and circular, unending void where your hopes, dreams and ideas go to die.

In my previous article, I spoke about how during the first year of my daughter’s life, I wrote, edited and self-published a book of short science-fiction and fantasy stories. …

A surreal experience to say the least…

You’re not supposed to right? It’s frowned upon, even these days, in the literary industry.

But all things considered, no matter how this book does, I’m really proud of it, and I wanted to share what I went through and am still going through with it.

Writing a book as a practice was very well summed up by Hemingway’s infamous quote:

"There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”

I thought of that again and again when completing my stories. I had a child a little over a year ago, an incredible…

Tomorrow i’m going to take one of my students and best friends to fight in the ring.

The reason I know I should be a coach is that all the nerves and excitement and tingling are still there for me, and I’m not even going to get in the ring.

I’ve had dozens and dozens of full contact fights, and dozens more grappling matches. When it comes to appearances in competition I’ve been there well into the hundreds of times.

And the nerves never go away. Though now I’ve learned to turn them more into a kind of excitement.


If you recall my last article, I attempted to tackle one half of the bullying equation by training the victims to look after themselves.

Today I’m going to look directly at the bullies. And my approach might not be what you’d usually consider.

Bullying is a social bonding experience.

The typical image of a bully in TV and film is that of the lone brute: a big hulking idiot hell-bent on making a certain someone’s life miserable. But social science (and personal experience) shows this not to be the case. It’s usually a group activity.

In both human groups, and…

There is no way that any program, any initiative, any squad, campaign or celebrity-endorsed sob story will ever do anything about the bully themselves.

Until humanity reaches a point of utopian enlightenment where no child is ever exposed to the triggers that create a bully, we will always have them. They are as inseparable from school life as the HB pencil.

Am I saying the work of anti-bullying charities is futile? Not necessarily. But to be honest I think the approach isn’t as helpful as some might think.

What sparked this off in my head is the recent social media…

I’m neither motivated nor inspired every day of the week.

In fact, I’m often demotivated and uninspired.

Sometimes I’m not even disciplined. I’m even downright lazy fairly often.

This might be hard to digest for people that know me. I work as a self-employed coach in both martial arts and performance coaching. I have an eight-month old daughter and relationship with my partner to maintain. …

When is the last time you got a slap in the face from reality?

I got a little one today. To be honest, it was somewhat exhilarating. I’m getting closer to hitting a major life goal and I’m pretty excited about it.

There was a version of me in the past that would have been daunted and terrified by today’s meeting. Not today though.

These days I appreciate getting the occasional hard pill to swallow. Some kind of incontrovertible truth added to my reality that forces me to take pause and re-evaluate things.

I genuinely relish those moments.

Here are…

Romance and “the relationship” are two very different things.

They are often mutually exclusive.

I’ve come to realise that when you get into it with a person, you are getting into two different types of relationships.

One of them is romantic. How much you want to kiss, cuddle, go on romantic getaways or dinners, get all goo-goo eyed and tear each other’s clothes off at every reasonable and unreasonable opportunity.

The romantic side is what everyone aspires to. They want to find their soulmate, the one person who completes them. This person is to be your everything, forever. They will…

Aaron Ramos

I’m an author, mental performance coach, personal trainer, and competitive athlete. Currently juggling writing, coaching and being a dad.

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