Sep 8, 2018 · 1 min read
Attachment type doesn’t have to mean personality disorder. And being avoidant doesn’t make you a jerk. Nor does being insecure make you weak. They both mean you were hurt and simply need to work a little harder to understand what you need in a relationship. There’s a great book by Adam Levine called Attached. It explains a lot. Attachment type isn’t fixed, it can be transient, so you could identify with more than one type dependent on who you are with. Usually avoidant types shouldn’t date insecure types for the reasons you have outlined above.
Maybe try to be a little kinder to yourself, and others.