I will admit that I don’t have “potential.” In fact, I am proud to be a bonafide Gen. X slacker whom — since I am single with no children, and have seen to many bad relationships to want to experience one myself — only do what I need to get by and help out an occasionally homeless person or relative in need. No, I am not a MGTOW or a misogynist. I have many female friends, but I don’t want to date any of them, and I would be an absolute terrible boyfriend or husband. But I agree with your premise. If he has “potential,” run!