Rachel S. HeslinStepping out of the ShadowsMany people refer to those parts of ourselves that we try to denigrate or deny The Shadow. I find this paradigm useful but incomplete. Most…Jul 5, 2023Jul 5, 2023
Rachel S. HeslinBoth grief and grace can be visceral.(I’m not sure what sort of “content warning” to preface this with, other than it’s about death and dying.)Dec 1, 2022Dec 1, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinPerspectiveIt’s not about denial; it’s about choice of focus. Would I rather my husband still be alive? Of course. 100%.Sep 21, 2022Sep 21, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinIt’s not an Either/OrAt Disneyland again with bonus kid, their friend who is visiting for another couple of weeks, and their bio parental. I'm enjoying being A…Sep 5, 2022Sep 5, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinWhat I choose to grieveLast night, I dreamt I was at the edge of an ocean, vast and boundless. Although there were no waves, the surface was choppy and opaque. I…Sep 3, 2022Sep 3, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinHow I grieve for my dead husbandLast Thursday, my husband of almost a quarter century dropped dead from one of those “widowmaker” heart attacks. It was a shock but could…Aug 25, 2022Aug 25, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinUntethered but still realCW: Cancer, death (but not from the cancer)May 6, 2022May 6, 2022
Rachel S. HeslinHolding the light amidst the chaosIt’s funny, sometimes, the things we remember, snapshot moments that retain their clarity even as all else becomes fuzzy with time.Apr 17, 2020Apr 17, 2020
Rachel S. HeslinThe Results of CommitmentIn 1999, people freaked out because 2000 was going to crash the banking system computers. But the reason it didn’t wasn’t due to magic.Mar 28, 2020Mar 28, 2020