Lessons from the first half of the year.

What I learned from being a nomad: Starting over could be the easiest thing.
People were raised to deal with their shortcomings differently and confidence is born on that spectrum.
Sometimes, there are internal conflicts etched too deep to be accessed with mere thoughts and words. Dig, uproot, and heal. Do it consciously. Do it as many times as you need to do so till you find peace. Peace is important.
A lot of your confusion is part of God’s plan to manifest His power, let grace fill the gaps of your doubt, practice how to trust and surrender.
Stop looking at people as “victims” of a relationship with you. Yes you were broken, and yes you may have hurt them, but forgive yourself.
What you do with your pain can either magnify or transform it.
Surround yourself with people who are willing to teach you lessons that life has taught them. Make memories, yes, but gather experiences too.
You’re never going to be able to do enough for people. You can really only do your part.
Feel things deeply. You are entitled to this.
Do not root for anyone until you are sure about who they are.
You are enough to do what God needs you to do. You are tall enough, subtle enough, God enough.
If people don’t see anything in you, it could be because you’re not giving them anything to watch.
True growth and love are deliberate processes at their easiest. Passive love is mediocre, passive growth is conformation.
There will be times that you would have to be your own audience, your own critic and your own muse. A personal triple threat. These are the seasons of expansion, document them.
Feelings of inadequacy are birthed from comparison, rejection or the fear of either. Cleanse your space of these and any force with a semblance of them.
Stop asking for permission to be who you’ve been called to be. Be a pillar, be an anchor. Be steadfast and sturdy in your individuality.
Pay attention to people. For their sake and for yours. Find the balance between being paranoid and being awake, let your relationships live on this line.
It is okay to admire without becoming.
Bravery is perceptive. We collect experiences that come with unique doubts, fears and challenges. The knowledge of these experiences lets us develop certain fears that won’t be understood by anyone but us.
You don’t have to explore every emotional connection you have with a person. Conserve your energy.
More often, things do not lose meaning all at once. Relationships tend to fragment, bit by bit, tear after tear, till there’s nothing left to build on or fight for. Recognize patterns of destruction. Also, walk away from ruins.
Lastly, make time to nurture the belief that everything is going to be okay.