To be correct or to be convenient?
If you don't face that question daily you've probably chosen a side already. I haven't.
I see myself as a very flexible and understanding person, which doesn't mean I don't stand up for my thoughts and convictions, but I've come to realize that sometimes people are just not opened to what you have to say, regardless of how good and cohesive your thoughts might be. In order to spare myself the trouble of getting in an unnecessary argument, I usually carefully observe the context and people involved in the potential debate before (if)deciding to jump right in. And even though I usually choose not to, today I've chosen to take part in it, make a point and be heard. And now I feel terrible.
You see, I avoid conflicts. Always have. Because I usually put myself in the other person's shoes in a way where I completely forget about my shoes in the first place. I can almost predict their arguments, which I use against myself and in the end I just decide it's pointless to argue (afterall, I have basically just simulated everything in my mind and lost). It's a lost battle from the start.
On the other hand, I feel proud of myself for standing up and resisting, making myself heard and not complying with the docile and delicate role that's expected from me for being a woman.
I guess it all comes down to the price you're willing to pay. Sometimes it really doesn't matter how right you are, you swallow your pride and conviction in the name of a friendship, job or just not killing the vibe. And sometimes it's bigger than you, or it's all about you and you just have to make yourself heard and not cope with what's expected or would be convenient. Either way, you're choosing.
