How To Accept Yourself

Day 186/365: It’s easy if you’re willing to do it!

People always ask me about my relationship status. To which I reply something like “I’ve tried some dating and had some relationships in the past, but they turned out bad in the end”.

The truth is, I couldn’t be in a relationship not because there was something wrong with the girl next to me, but because I was not really accepting myself for who I was and also wasn’t confident about who I was.

If you can’t accept yourself, you’ll always look for ways to make the person next to you feel like you’re greater than you are, stronger, more courageous, more intelligent and so on. When in fact, you’re just putting on one of the many masks that you have hidden in your closet, in an attempt to make yourself and your lover more acceptant about your own persona.

That’s crazy.

In learning to accept your own self, you have to start from the bottom up. It all starts with the physical aspect. If you’re not acceptant of that, you’ll never feel equal with your significant other. You’ll always feel inferior if you’re 10 pounds heavier than you should, while your partner looks great.

It doesn’t matter if he or she tells you it means nothing to him or her. You can’t accept the fact that you look a certain way, so you’ll always feel miserable inside while keeping a smiley face when you to are around one another.

This never lasts.

Also, there’s the mental stuff. If you are always jealous about the other half, always on the run for her, always not showing up for her and always not calling her back, it means that you are not taking enough space from your daily schedule for her.

It makes stuff incredibly hard and it all falls apart eventually.

In order to accept your mind and body as they are, focus on rationality. Regardless of what you think your mind is telling you and regardless of what you think you look like, regardless if you feel inferior or superior to your lover, take a moment to reflect on the actual situation.

“Is this really a thing for me to concern about? Is this really something that matters when two people really care about one another? Is this a motive for me to always feel a certain way when I’m around my other half?”

Of course not. The mind has a tendency to go over the good stuff really fast while taking all of the time in the world to put the bad stuff into perspective. By constantly reminding yourself that you are good just the way you are, you will slowly start to accept yourself more.

It starts with small steps.

You first forget your own little mistakes.

You then start making adjustments.

You start to feel a little bit more relaxed in your own shoes.

You start building confidence in everyday situations.

You start showing that confidence more, which in return will make you feel stronger.

You accept yourself for who you are because you can feel and see other people really grasp on your confidence.

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