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Day 30/365: The Truth is going to lead you to Prizes, pushing you to your Limits and ultimately reward you with Maturity
I love food. In fact, I love it so much, I struggled with being a tad overweight for my entire life so far. I was always the first to say Yes to anything that was food related, so naturally a show like “Chef’s Table” is part of my Netflix binge-watching list.
Besides the food, this show is filled with life lessons and experiences. The chefs narate about their struggles and battles not only with the outside world but with the inner selves on their ways to cooking mastery.
Chef Francis Mallmann’s story is featured in Episode 3 of the Season 1. He talks a lot about food and other interesting things, but the one line that stood out to me the most is this one:
I have a select group of people who I enjoy spending time and talk to. If you don’t enjoy spending time with someone, the mature thing to do is to let that person know it.
Telling the Truth
Friends go on to live their lives and will not be there for you forever. Even if that’s not the case, you shouldn’t spend one second together with someone if you don’t really want to. So why not be blunt with them and tell them the truth? I know it might hurt you and it might hurt them, but the truth is liberating.
You have to stop playing the role the others want you to play. You have to tell the truth, even if it hurts.
Maturity is all about telling the truth. You become a mature person when you stop looking for mentors and idols and start thinking about finding your own way, your own voice and your own path. Telling yourself the truth about what you really are and want to be in the future is always a good idea.
Prizes and Limits
Prizes in life make you both happy and sad because they make you question yourself. Is this all that I can, is there some more? Maturity is about understanding that there are absolutely no limits on your abilities.
Understanding that prizes and achievements are not absolute growth signs, but just clarifications, approvals, if you may, is another important step towards a mature life.
The Truth is the one that sets you free, Prizes are the ones that motivate you, Limits are the ones who push you and need to be exceeded and Maturity is the one that sets you apart and on the right track to your best possible life of calm, joy and prosperity.
Spend time with the people you really want to spend time with and be sincere and mature with the rest, no matter how hard the urge to not do so might be. It’s the only way to grow and to outgrow childhood and teenagery.
Thank you for your time!
My name is Gabriel Iosa, I’m a 25 years old travel enthusiast, food lover, Psychology student, Full-time Freelancer, writer and Instagram fanatic. You can follow me @gabrieliosa, and if you liked this post, give it exactly 47 claps!
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