You Are Being Depressed For Nothing

Day 325/365: Here’s how you can overcome that

Photo by Adolfo Félix on Unsplash

Most of the people get a bit sad from time to time. Some get a little off, but then some get really badly sad. Depressed, as other people call it. It’s not ok to feel that way, but it happens and luckily, it does not have to be a permanent thing and it’s not, in 99% of all cases. Most likely you are getting depressed because of one of two reasons.

One, you are sad about a negative event that has happened in your life, like the loss of a loved one, a break up, you wasting your time with a bad investment or you losing your job. Or two, you are getting depressed because of how you think people perceive you.

You might think you’re ugly, unattractive to men or women, fat, skinny, poor or rich, unpopular, too popular, and so on. Regardless of the motive, the reason you are depressed has something to do with what you think people think about you. It has nothing to do with you, no, but with what you perceive people around you might think of you.

Which is crazy because, most of the times, people don’t give the smallest shit about how you behave, how rich or poor you are or how pretty or ugly you might be. It’s nonsense, and there’s a good reason why.

The Girl in the Bookstore

I mingled around a bookstore after work today. I searched for some books about offline marketing. You’d be amazed about how little books have been written about this topic lately. Almost none. During my visit, a small girl dropped a book on the ground in the middle of the store.

Everybody turned their heads towards the impact zone, looked that way for a second, and then moved on with their shopping. This reinforced one strong idea that I thankfully managed to implement deep into my monkey brain. The idea that, no matter how much price you think people are putting on the way you look, behave, speak, dress, walk, and so on, the truth is they most likely not give you that much attention.

Yes, I know now that a little girl dropped a book in the middle of a bookstore with a full house and everybody looked that way for a bit. But that is it. I don’t remember how the girl looked like, what was she wearing, what the book was about, if her mother was with her or not, the color of her hair.

Nothing.

Why? Because people are more interested into their own personas, not yours. You are bitting yourself up about how others might see you, getting depressed and all that, when in fact you and the people around you don’t give a damn about other people.

You are nothing but a fainting memory to every single person that has seen you at the end of the day. Heck, some of those people would have forgotten you by the time you were out of their visual spectrum. Some of them would have never even noticed you.

So why do you engage so much with this idea that it’s extremely important to be pleasant, to look a certain way, to have a certain car or clothes from a certain band, phones and accessories, when literally nobody cares about these things? Why do you prefer making yourself miserable for a wrong idea your monkey brain has formed inside your head?

Why not mind your own business and just be who you are? The right people will like you the way you are. The right people will meet and greet you regardless of how you look. The right people will like you without having second guesses about you.

It’s easy, because the people who care about you, they don’t need a reason to do so. They just do it naturally. It’s easy to get “undepressed”, all you have to do is care less about others, and more about you.

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