Why I’m Returning to My Maiden Name
Emily LaFave Olson
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I have no problem, no real opinion either way, if you want to keep your name or take your husbands, do what feels right to you. However my issue is the idea of continuing your family name. Unless your children take your name rather than your husbands, your family name will still die.

If you go for the hyphenated joint version that’s OK until your child marries someone with a hyphenated name. No one would choose to a name with four elements separated with hyphens, and then that’s not even thinking of further generations.

One of the names will have to go eventually, it’s just impractical for it not to.

If you don’t hyphenate and just keep you maiden name then what about your children?

First of all you will have had to choose between your husbands name and your own for the birth certificate, the loser will not feel good about the outcome no matter what they say.

Secondly I don’t like the idea of putting your children in such a difficult position as to which name to choose when they are old enough to choose for themselves.

Do girls get mothers names and boys fathers? What if all your children are the same sex?

Like I said, I have no problem with you making your choice, but what problems will your children inherit from that choice? You will have to be very careful about how you introduce and explain your choices to them.

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