Unexpected Ways My Outlook Changed After Becoming a Parent
Before you have kids you may hear things like your priorities will change, you won’t sleep for the first few months, or that raising a kid is incredibly difficult but rewarding.
I thought I knew what to expect before our son was born, but I really had no idea. No idea.
This isn’t a post about parenting or about my child specifically. It’s just an observation of some ways that my overall outlook has changed after eight months of being a parent. I noticed that I now have:
- Less patience for drama and pettiness.
- More consideration for other people’s struggles. Less judgement about people’s failings or what others “should do.” (This is something I still need to work on.)
- A new sense of shared responsibility to look out for each other’s well-being and safety (in some ways living in a big city conditions us to do the opposite).
- Less feelings of guilt for not “getting things done” — more acceptance that I’m doing what I can and if I’m doing what I can it’s fine.
- A different sense of humor. Kind of unexpected but after being sleep deprived for months I’m drawn to the strange way more.
- A greater appreciation for community. I always valued being self-sufficient, but didn’t realize how much help and support we’d need.
If you’re a new parent I’d love to hear how your perspective has changed or if you’ve experienced any of the ones from my list.
Mark Forscher is Principal of Under After, a Brooklyn-based design studio. Previously Mark was the in-house Creative Director for ABC News Digital, Newsweek Digital, and Code and Theory’s first Creative Director. Mark also creates music as Lost Waves.