Garima Kaushik
Sep 8, 2018 · 2 min read

How Haters Shape You!

No matter what you think about them, they are a big influence in your life.

I always believe in one quote:

You make friends, but you have to earn your enemies.

You can make friends very easily, you just need a great start, some coffees, trips and voila! you are friends.

In order to earn an enemy, you need a lot.

You need to be fierce, and someone examplary to look up to.

You need to be a people’s person. The one who is adorable, hard working, and have a great aura.

Only when someone thinks he can’t ever reach your level of perfection in one matter, they’ll start hating you.

It takes a lot.

People don’t see eye to eye with me when I tell them how difficult it is to earn haters. They believe that having haters is a bad thing.

Love it or not, you are going to have friends and enemies both in your life.

It’s always better to have a positive approach towards either situation.

What your Haters do is a reflection of their personalities and upbringing. It has got nothing to do with yours.

When they do their thing, like, say, character assassination, trying to defame you by spreading rumours or exposing vulnerable part of your life, you might feel low, offended and scared. It’s normal!

If you try to look at the hindsight benefits of having haters, you’ll feel less intimidated by them.

  1. Everyone likes to be appreciated and haters are the people who bring you the pain of rejection. With this, they make you very sympathetic towards others as you are the one who was criticised, condemned, and bruised once. This makes you closer to other people and after a while you might find good friends in them.
  2. When someone demonize you, no matter how they portray you, people juxtapose their description to your behaviour. They might initially agree with your haters on the fake comments they made. But in the end, they’d understand who you are.
  3. You learn to be alone and happy. When there are too many haters they make you go through the worst. They just dry up your social life, demean you, thrash you and cut you off entirely. After being through so much crap, you’d never need people to support and rejuvenate you. And, you’ll be unstoppable ever after.
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