“On Wednesdays we wear pink!”
I of course borrowed the title of this entry from the movie ‘Mean Girls’, one of my favs.
If you haven’t seen the movie yet, like, what have you been doing for the last ten years?! Basically, it’s the story of a girl who is new to a school. She infiltrates the popular table to befriend and mess with the head-mean girl, only to fall too far into their world, make a bunch of mistakes, throw a wild party and finally make amends with everyone she wronged and bring down the entire social hierarchy.
I actually wrote my first entry on a topic similar to this one. Being an empathetic person I have a very strong connection to these matters.
In my groups of friends and the people I interact with at events/clubs/etc — I would say about 95% of the people enjoy this movie. Not only that, but could probably quote most of the movie and tell you what happens before it’s on the screen.
So what I find hard to understand is — why do so many people feel the need to stereotype each other and place people in groups. Why do I see some being left out, pointed at or laughed at for trying to be included. Don’t even get me started on the few who have disabilities who are laughed at and ostracised, I could write for days at how appalling that behavior is. I may seem hypocritical for saying that, placing those with disabilities in a separate group. But I must admit I do do this. Working in a job with people who have disabilities, I have learned a lot about different problems some face. I have a lot more time for someone who is being held back in life from something out of their control.
Excuse my borrowed images I found on Google, but I find the above one is great to use. Imagine being that grey person, left out of the group. Maybe you have been at some time in your life. Maybe you still are. I know I have been on multiple occasions, and it was awful. To feel unwanted, to be snickered and sneered at is a terrible feeling. I can’t play the victim though. I know that in the past I have been the soulless person doing the pointing. I feel terrible and pathetic for doing so. If I could take it all back I would. I know I wont ever be that person again. Which I prove to myself time and time again when I see it happening to someone else. If someone is left out and alone, I do go out of my way to say ‘hey’, have a chat, to try to help them feel less alone.
I’ve heard it all before. People bully because they are insecure, jealous, afraid, etc etc etc. But that’s not good enough. Blaming someone or something else for excluding a person and making them feel ‘less’ isn’t okay. It’s not an excuse. I don’t understand how some people can go to sleep at night, after seeing the way they treat people.
Next time you see someone being excluded, I challenge you to try and be the better person. Go say ‘hey’, invite them to chat, play, drink, dance, sit, party — whatever. Be that person that makes someone smile :)