I think you are confusing ego with super-ego. It’s the super-ego that creates an aspirational standard for how we should live. Trump is a narcissist incapable of sustaining long term relationships. This is most easily depicted by the fact that his most trusted advisors are his employee/children and ppl he has met on the campaign trail. None of the people who know him best in his business dealings want anything to do with him. His children probably only put up with him bc he controls the purse strings. Trump’s lack of shame stems from an incurable personality disorder. And his success is derived from inheriting a large sum of money. Trump has no redeemable qualities that anyone should aspire toward.