Jul 14
One Evening We Sat Down
As I grow older I have to admit that my idealist mindset that I had when I was young disappeared one by one and one particular aspect of my life has been the most influenced. Friends.
I love people. I love to hear their stories, I love when we laugh with each other over some silly jokes. That’s why when I was young I tried to be the best version of myself that suits the people around me, I tried my best to have as many friends as I could. But, well, life happened. I learned about betrayal, I found my people, I let go of some. Not that big of a deal.
One evening I sat down with 2 of my friends, and we talked. One of them was the highlight of the meeting, while my other friend and I were the listeners.
At some point of the meeting, we began to talk about our life as fresh graduates. Tough times. She told us about how there are 3 people in her life (me being one of them) who are similar to each other when it comes to getting to our goal. We are idealists.
She said that I am the kind of person who believes in what should be, always searching for something, always setting my life according to a goal. However, I know that things can’t go my way all the time. Life isn’t a game where you have cheat codes, unfortunately, and I know the measures. I know how to be realistic at times, I appreciate the process, so I don’t mind to start low for the sake of a higher peak.
The second person being her significant other. The same idealist like me, but he takes longer time to learn about life. Unlike me, who prepares myself for the worst whenever I start something, he approaches life with his chin up. It is good, but at the same time the fall feels a lot more painful, and he needs to fall for so many times before getting the point. Bless him, at least he’s learning.
And the third, the last one, is an idealist who is addicted to instant results. The thing about idealists is the way they believe good things can be achieved no matter what. Bearing that in mind, this person seeks for something quick without much hard work and everything that comes without proper process is going to vanish just as quickly or causing harm. And she really does get hurt.
It is fine to approach life with our chins up, with a goal, with so much dream. But it is also important to remember that a chin can land on ground after a hit, that all goals can be corrected and lowered, that after a dream you will have to wake up.
Life is good but it can destroy you with its might. Approach with open heart, but be very careful. One wrong step can cause you yourself or worse, the people you love.
