How to Approach Women Using VR

Men’s Dating Tips article by Geoff “Zag” Keene

These days, many women prance around their homes and office-spaces playing with virtual worlds in the HTC Vive and firing virtual bows at little tiny castle attackers, all at the same time.

Yet, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them.

Of course, not all women are open to being approached because not all women are single and looking. But the rest are. All of them.

However, if a woman experiencing high-end virtual reality is single and hoping to meet a boyfriend (or even someone to hold her VR cord), she will usually be happy to remove herself from splendorous worlds of fantasy to give you an opportunity to create a spark with her.

Her taking off her virtual reality headset doesn’t always mean that she is super interested and wants you to ask for her number or anything serious like that. Sometimes, it’s simply a cause of her wanting to check her surroundings, because someone probably moved an office chair into the “VR zone” again. Probably Steve. Fuckin’ Steve.

What to Do to Get Her Attention

1. Stand wherever the hell you want, but definitely make sure you’re INSIDE her VR chapperone space if she’s using an HTC Vive. This will ensure a surprise and comforting (firm but gentle) touch out of nowhere! (We’ll get to that in a minute.)

2. Don’t even bother smiling — she can’t see it yet.

3. If she hasn’t already heard you scratching your beard or your trench coat rustling as you confidently stride up beside her, simply get her attention with a firm tap on the shoulder. If this doesn’t work, try tapping on the headset directly — it’ll send a shock through her that no girl can ignore! Remember, first impressions are everything, and her first impression of you should be “power.” And “confidence.” And “large penis.”

All of those, ideally.

Accompany this firm (but gentle!) tapping action with a nice“God, you look ridiculous.” She most likely won’t hear you say that because she no doubt has those peksy headphones in (look around our site for another article about THAT little annoyance.)

This is just how you show her that you want to talk to her. She’ll understand right away.

4. When she lifts her headset and gives you her overdue attention, smile, point to the headset and confidently ask, “Can you stop playing your little fantasy game for a minute?” as you gently begin to remove the wrist straps on her hand controllers (remember, firm but gentle!) so she fully understands what you mean.

If she doesn’t understand that you want her to briefly take off her headset and put down the force-feedback Vive controllers, simply gesture that you want to talk to her by pointing back and forth from you to her and say, “I am way more important than your video game.”

Confidence is key.

In most cases, you won’t have to go to that extreme because most women are polite unlike that bitch Karen, but some women are just shy and will be hesitant about taking their headset off initially and immersing themselves in reality (which of course, contains you, so it’s a win-win for her!)

Of course, if you notice that she doesn’t want to take off her headset and stop playing fetch with the virtual dog in Valve’s The Lab VR demonstration, and doesn’t seem interested in talking to you at all, just respect that and leave the interaction without trying to talk to her any further. If you trip on her headset cord on the way out, no one would blame you — certainly not THIS author.

5. When she takes off her headset and puts down her Vive controllers to talk to you instead of sitting in her claustrophobic chamber of isolation and social apathy, you might want to then do what we call “Acknowledging the Alpha” by quickly mentioning something about your potential mating capabilities and why you chose this moment to slip her an introduction to the majesty of your being in favor of that silly game or intense dog fight she was in (see the conversation example below.) This is how you demonstrate you understand that a man and a woman talking to each other in this way isn’t the most common of experiences for either party, but it’s really her duty to oblige, and you should be rewarded for such bravery.

For example, in your office VR space or even while in their own home:

You: [Smile in a friendly, confident manner] Hey nerd [women love cute nicknames!] — I know it’s not normal for people to abruptly yank you out of virtual reality, especially when you’re smiling the way you were! [Be sure to mention her smile! She’ll love that you were paying attention to it while she couldn’t see you!] What’s your name?

Woman: Rebecca. [If she’s hesitant, it’s only because she’s not used to this sort of confidence from her usual flaccid beta orbiters.]

You: [Add in some humor to get her back smiling again and create a spark between you, or leave and find a woman with a hotter name] Cool…nice to meet you Rebecca. I don’t normally talk to girls who play with VR toys, but your inexcusable anti-social behavior was just calling out to me.

Woman: [Possibly smiling or laughing or sucking your dick at this point]

You: [If you’re in an office environment, let her know that you really have to go, but also hit her with mundane small talk — works every time!] Anyway, I’m just out here grabbing some coffee in the break room. How about you?

If it’s clear that she’s interested in talking to you, keep applying pressure, because we all know the best strategy here is doubling down. Keep your boring-ass conversation going and if she’s not busy at that moment, ask if you can use the Vive instead. Even if you don’t have time (and as if you’d ever want to try such hum-drum activities yourself) it shows to her that you’re interested in her nerdy shit and you might be able to snag her phone number on the way out.

Common Mistakes That Guys Make When Approaching Women Who Are Using The HTC Vive

1. Approaching in a nervous manner

If you want the interaction to go smoothly and not feel awkward for either of you, make sure that you approach and talk to her in a relaxed, confident manner. If you unbutton your shirt a little, she might catch that under the headset before she fully lifts it up. You big tease!

Most women are attracted to the strength in men (e.g. confidence, masculinity) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. nervousness, anxiety), so if you are nervous or anxious, she probably won’t be interested in talking to you. Again, be sure to display power here.

For example: If a guy asks a girl to take off her headset and the first words out of his mouth are, “Hi, ummm… I was, ummm… wondering, ummm… sorry to interrupt…how, ummm… are you?” you can guess what will happen next.

The headset is back on and she’ll likely ask you to move out of her sword-swinging-space.

2. Giving up too easily

VR headsets are a great barrier between a person and the rest of the world.

Some women wear these dorky looking headsets because they don’t want guys or anyone else to speak to them and would much rather play with virtual animals or fight virtual goblins with the tactile precision that only a VR experience can offer… So if you try to talk to a woman and she clearly shows that she’s not interested in talking to you, just respect that and walk away. Some would apply this to all areas of their life — but not us.

Sometimes a woman will be interested in talking to a guy, but she won’t immediately pull out of her immersive VR experience and show interest. Why?

Some women like to test to see how confident a guy is by ignoring his attempts to converse with her while she’s standing atop an airship and can almost feel the wind blowing through her hair, and then seeing how the guy reacts.

Does he become nervous and awkward? Does he walk away in shame, or does he remain calm and continue talking to her in a confident, easy-going manner even if she can’t hear him over the deafening roar of the airship’s twin engines and cannon fire erupting all around her in an intimate 3D world?

If a guy gives up at the first sign of resistance, a woman like her will lose interest because he lacks the type of confidence that she looks for in a guy, probably.

So, if you are going to talk to a woman experiencing the most in-depth gaming experience she’s ever had up to this point in her life, just keep in mind that some women will immediately take off their headset to chat to you because nothing compares to the 3D experience that is YOU, whereas some will make it obvious that they don’t want to be bothered. Others might want to talk to you, but first want to see if you will remain confident if she doesn’t immediately begin talking to you instead of enjoying a gaming experience unlike any other.

3. Not leading the conversation

If a shy guy stands in front a woman and is lost for words, she’s most likely not going to hear him because she’s got her top of the line 7.1 surrond sound headphones plugged into the handy little headphone cord on the back of the headset. “DIE, KOBOLD SCUM!” as she swings wildly in the air, unaware of his emasculated beta presence.

You have approached her, so you can’t expect her to be the one making all the conversation — or any conversation at all. You’ve got to lead the way.

Leading a conversation with a woman is not about bossing her around, being arrogant or being too assertive as you talk to her. It’s really about physical force. You may need to simply grab the VR controller from her hand and say “Here, let me show you how to do it.” Women love a man who leads. Remain confident and keep the conversation going in a relaxed, easy going manner, as you demonstrate to her that her VR experience isn’t important to you and would never stop you from getting what you want.

4. Sticking to polite or reserved conversation

If a guy gets a woman to take off her headset to talk to him and then only engages her in a polite, reserved conversation, she’s probably not going to be very enthusiastic about talking to him for long.

So, make sure that you also demean her skillls in VR, and give her your honest opinion on this childish behavior. Just let your natural personality and sense of humor come through as you tell you exactly what you want to do to her in the real world.

5. Not including any flirting

Flirting is the most discreet way for a man and a woman to communicate sexual interest in each other, without actually having to say, “Hey, I’m interested in you in a sexual way.”

Trust me, I’ve tried.

If a guy doesn’t include any flirting after getting a woman to leave her adventure to talk to him she will most likely begin to wonder why he stopped her at all, if not for sex. And this is the real danger of VR — it allows women like Rebecca to think they have uses outside of sexual performance.

As you didn’t close the deal with some flirting, she might then say, “Nice talking to you. Bye”, put her VR headset back in push him out of her designated VR zone so she can finish looting that chest with her actual hands.

So, if your intention is to get the woman’s phone number so you can possibly take her on a date, make sure that you attempt to flirt with her and see if she flirts back or throws her VR gear aside, not even taking the time to save her progress. If she flirts back, it usually means that she is interested and is open to getting to know you further. If she doesn’t, ignore everything else she says and try some playful moves. My favorite playful, flirty move is called “Tracking Lost” but I’ll have to detail that in another article.

Approaching Women

As you may have noticed, women usually don’t go around actively approaching men in public places or even in bars or clubs.

Women know that it’s the man’s role to be confident enough to walk over, no matter where they are, or how personal their experience, and talk to a woman he finds attractive, so they have a chance to meet. If he doesn’t do that, a woman will rarely ever notice how great he is.

So, don’t ever think that you’re doing a bad thing by approaching and talking to a woman in a confident, easy going way, even if they’re right in the middle of a mind-blowing VR flying simulation.

Most single women are open to being approached by a confident guy, so that they can have a chance to meet a potential new lover or boyfriend. And let’s be honest, what experience trumps that of a new boyfriend, especially when that boyfriend is YOU?

The key to talking to a woman who is wearing one of those ridiuclous VR headsets (or even worse, one who is checking Facebook with the Steam desktop overlay view in immersive 3-dimensional space) is to be confident, relaxed and easy going as you talk to her.

Of course, not all women who play around in VR are open to being approached or hoping to be approached, but some of them definitely are.

I mean look at them. They have vaginas, after all.