Your fathers death left a hole in your life and heart and its normal to want to fill part of that hollow space with a mate of your own and children to fill some of the space in your mothers heart
It seems like a good idea but searching for human putty to patch the holes can’t work for the long haul unless you are extremely fortunate
If you really want to find the women of your dreams you need to start with a solid idea of who you are and what is important to you and be thorough. Include everything and that means what kind of sex life you want.
Don’t just look at the big stuff, like where and how you want to live; also include the little stuff that drives you nuts like slurping your tea. Mentally build your dream and it will come and if it doesn’t you’d be spared a horrible relationship that could leave mental and emotional scars