I love asking great questions.
The kinds of questions that make you pause, disrupt your thinking and find new insights.
I ask these questions to myself, to friends, family, clients and strangers I’ve just met. Each weekend, with a coffee in hand and my phone off, I write down the answers to 22 reflective questions. The questions centre me. They help me look back with precision and clarity, analyse how I behaved and what my feelings and thoughts are about those behaviours. They also challenge me to see things I don’t usually look for - like my impact, like what when I felt most stressed, most joyful about, and what I wasted the most like on. And they let me develop a mindset of gratitude, generosity and love for others and myself. …
‘’Starting requires faith, it requires an openness and some small level of intention but no defined end goal. Note I said intention and not direction. Intentions define direction….intentions come before’’ — written by me in 2016 in ‘The Artist’s Way — 10 Key Themes
Intentions define direction. They are not the direction. Or the end goal.
I’ve learnt that its problematic to want to move forward in my life — to grow — when I focus on only direction or goals.
Direction is certainly useful to have but occasionally it feels either too wide or too specific. And if it isn’t attached to anything then its easy for me to feel like it may not be the right direction. When you come across things on the journey it is often hard to pinpoint whether they are the right or the wrong things, unless you have an intention to help direct you. …
A Q&A with Trigger Conversations’ Founder to share insights on connection and conversation from the summer and learn what’s in store over the next few months. Originally published on Mailchimp. Sign up here.
“You see with connection, you don’t either have it all or not at all. Instead you have it, in moments. Then it disappears. And you have to trust that you’ll have another moment like that again.”
- Georgie Nightingall
Hello old friend, what did you discover this summer?
For our founder Georgie — who set out this summer to build memories through shared experiences — she discovered that what she needed was to trust the little moments. …
What is it to own an identity? To say you are something?
At the beginning of 2018, I felt like I was trying to be many things. To do many things. But that I hadn’t conquered any of them yet.
In 2018, I became many things. Trying on many new hats, I put them on without feeling ready. Felt like an imposter. And then had to let myself grow into them.
And once I had grown into them, the next step was owning them as an identity. I find it really difficult to own an identity. To say you are a label. I feel like an imposter when I saw ‘I am’ something… A coach. A trainer. A speaker. A founder. …
How can our identities be both consistent and always in flux?
In the last week I’ve had 3 fairly deep conversations about my identity: trying to resolve a conflict in my mind between my identity as always being in flux and an understanding that I seem to be incredibly consistent with who I used to be, such that this sense of consistency might be my essence.
I believe that I am constantly in flux. Each day my concept of self expands beyond yesterday’s version, as I explore and respond to new thoughts and behaviour and ideas.
I break through barriers of beliefs, form new preferences, develop new skills and abilities and realise new potentials. How? Constantly experimenting, doing things I don’t think I can (often where there is a belief that I can’t because of a lack of talent in an area), or want to (things that appear outside of my comfort zone of just appear to be things I feel mildly indifferent too). Overcoming beliefs about my lack of abilities and overcoming resistance to liking an activity. Good examples of this: swimming and dancing. …
When I think of 2017, I can’t help but feel disappointed with some of the goals I didn’t meet. The stuff that didn't happen.
But having completed an annual review, I’ve realised that I did do a lot. 2017 was full of activity, growth and experience.
And I needed to voice it to realise it. And I want to feel proud of what I have done, so I figured writing it here was a start.
And, because, if you don’t write it down you’ll forget it.
I entered 2017 with very few ideas about what the year might look like.
2017 was my year of embracing exploration and experimentation. I had left the safety and structure of a full-time job and embarked on the entrepreneurial journey with a project that lay close to my heart — Trigger Conversations.
And I wanted growth. Both of the company and of myself. I knew, therefore, that 2017 would need to be about change.
As you might expect to hear, easy it was not! It was emotional. The highs of success. The highs of gratitude. The lows of failure. The lows of doubt. The lows of inaction. The stress of change. …
At 1am last night, my brain was in overdrive and idea-dumping mood. All this stuff came up . So I started writing…
One question that has been been swimming through my thoughts for the last month or so, is ‘what do I want to change about myself in 2018?’. New Year, new you… blah blah blah. What didn’t I like about who I was? What could I do better? What better choices could I make?
And the important bit is that they’re not really goals I am aspiring for.
I have these too — individual milestones I want to meet — but real change comes from changing the systems, not just aspiring to meet goals. James Clear, who produces some excellent writing stemming from 1 question — how can we live better? — says we should commit to a process, not a goal. Goals help plan progress but its the system/process that actyally helps us make…
‘I loved the energy in the room — everyone was very willing to participate — a very clever event idea — people love to talk — and this made it very easy to immediately have intelligent and meaningful and interesting conversations with complete strangers’
I didn’t expect TRIGGER Conversations to become a thing.
A thing being something that people actually want, need and turn up to. I started it for many reasons (which I will write about separately) but partly just because I wanted some real conversations — it was a personal need.
But it also spoke to many others who were in the same boat — feeling socially undernourished, wanting to meet new people but craving meaningful conversation, not just small talk. …
It’s sometimes difficult to describe an experience.
And even harder to when you want the descriptions to be authentic and real. So, I’ve drawn out the key 7 TRIGGER Conversations themes from a selection of the many positive reviews written by our members.
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‘Awesome to spend an evening having real conversations with smart, interesting people. Great crowd, ace chat and a really well run event.’
‘This event attracts the most interesting clientele.’
‘It’s fun to talk to people who I’d otherwise never meet and get the chance to know how they think.’
‘I am addicted to TRIGGER. It attracts really interesting and open-minded people from all walks of life — who are all connected in a desire to engage in thought-provoking, quirky or even controversial conversation (my personal…