Yes. All of this is true. Sixteen years of HR and one hears things in conference rooms and hallway conversations that are flabbergasting at best, illegal at worst. Yet all of this happens.
I quit HR for a lot of reasons, but mostly couldn’t continue being a part of keeping sexism alive. It’s pernicious in every way, in every level of tech (and a lot of other businesses!)
Now that I, as an older white man, said this, you know it’s true, even as women have been alerting on this for decades! *sigh*