That reminds me of my wife’s story. She was brought to many contests where they had to recite poetry of classic poets. She didn’t really like it, but she won one contest after another, because she was told to do it, and it made her mom happy.
Then, a few months ago my mother-in-law had a confession (well, it wasn’t really a confession, she just told it out of the ordinary): she always wanted to be an actress. My wife was shocked as she realized the cause behind her continuous torture. So we decided not to bring our daughter back to any event she doesn’t like (and it seems you do the same; kudos for that!) but get back to anywhere she likes.