The Interested Challenge!

Improve your Social Skills and conquer your Ego!
Just like with any other skills, the only way to improve is with practice.While some people are fortunate enough to develop their social skills at an early age, most of us are not so lucky.The good news is that it’s never too late to improve your social skills.
But if you do not currently consider yourself a very social person and you want to become more social, you can’t just sit around hoping one day you will magically burst out of your cocoon and into a social butterfly.
You will have to make a conscious effort to break out of your current behaviour patterns and establish new ones.This is not easy its a gradual transformation that takes time, practice and a little bit of courage, but one that you can start today.
But here is the question “how”?
The first thing you have to do is
1-Change the way of you think yourself
2-Start thinking of yourself as a social person.
3-Start talking to people as often as you can.
4-Stop reacting and start acting.
(A)Practice when the stakes are low(Pretend to be the to the most confident, outgoing person you can possibly be)
(B)Lighten up (Make fun of yourself, don’t take it personally, and then move on)
(C)Be Confident
(D)Be open minded
(F)Be friendly
Treat every person that you meet as a future friend, and then make the effort to get to know them.
“If you want to be interesting, be interested.

Asking someone about their life is definitely be so tough, but when they are willing to talk with you it becomes much easier to communicate. The word “trust” has developed and the other feel much comfortable when you start caring about them and asking about their problems and providing solutions to those problems.

I started reaching out to my friends, relatives. And deliberately ask about them and about their life what are they planning next etc. I realized that people get more closer by giving them attention and being interested in them. They feel sometime very special for you and care about yourself. I get more positive than my expectations. That is if you show interest then people will value you more and also show interest in you, your opinion or whatever you are talking about.
After reading the chapter 1:
“Do This And You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere” from How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie and completing the interested challenge I learn that if we don’t pay attention to others opinions or thoughts in return they also not pay attention to our thoughts and opinions. And without asking to them you are not aware of the situations they are in.Well said:“ We can’t understand someone else’s ideas while we’re busy thinking about our own”
I definitely apply the concept of being interested in my real life and always try to listen others opinions as well because it not only provides me better understanding of their ideas but also build a strong friendly relationship between us.Our personality become interesting automatically when we are interested in other.
