Nice to meet you, where you have been?
I have been a very private person throughout my life and never thought about writing how exactly I feel that publicly but I will try to sound like a person who is acceptable at least by rabbits.

I had to drill my mind and writing is feeling like so much of a burden now. My interest in listening to people is so immense that I always try to plug in earphones, otherwise even the journey from university to home feels like hell. I personally (not that personal) think that songs are better and music feels more super than people.
All this aura of social clans freaks me out, like I don’t want to talk to people for one good hour and listen to them. Like what can I possibly get from it? Headache?
So, as I have been going to MITEFP summer boot camp these days, I really find the clever ways to do my Amal projects by just doing activities on that summer camp but yeah ok guys, I am really doing these things, it is not usual for me. So today on 27th of July, we did that activity of life map, we are in teams at boot camp so we sit with our teams which we made earlier like I have my best friend and sister and her sister in the team so it is kind of a family friend team which means anti-social behavior at its peak. We did not just made charts but also listened to everyone’s story. And we spent solid 4 hours in that. This is the first time I listened to so many people in such a short span of time. Because I am a potential loner which means that if I do not find someone I like in any gathering I just stare at everyone and observe till they die!
Everyone told about themselves. And I listened patiently to even persons I seriously dislike. So, listening is really something not that difficult like you just have to be there and ask questions (it sucks!). I came to know about my peers (which was not essential), like a girl who have been to India, the guy who rode aeroplanes, the boy who fell in love with a girl and how he managed the heartbreak and I really liked the story of our mentor, she is so amazing. Also, I practiced judgments after listening to everyone and tried to be as savage as possible. I think one of the benefits of listening to others is that after listening you can communicate with them efficiently.
Apart from this I talked to my best friend for one hour on phone call. My best friend is a listening freak! Like everyone is welcomed by her she would just listen and pay attention. Maybe that is a good practice (funny story but I hate it).
She is the only person whom I talk to this much and, she is the only person I love listening to. I have listened to so many people today, and believe me I think that is the reason behind my chronic headache. Although I have so many other reasons too. I also talked to my sister and she is not a good listener so I just listened and she has so many vague and concrete ideas that I think she is human version of migraine. Then I tried to talk to my mother but she did not respond and told me that I am the most spoiled kid of family. I also tried to talk to my little sister, she is so much annoying and she is always talking about senseless things like she said me to teach her chemistry? Just imagine! But later we agreed upon playing ludo star.
Not just that I went to call my father, he lives away from us. He told me about weather of Islamabad and how he misses us and we shared mutual feelings and prayed for reunion.
I am also anxiously waiting to listen the final verdict of court regarding Panama case.
listening really helps, especially those words which are not said by mouth are very crucial to understand. There is an universal language which all of us can speak, like if I am with someone who speak french, it does not mean that I can not communicate. If the french man needs water I would fetch it for him, There is another language above all, the language of love which can only be learnt by heart and by paying attention and showing unconditional interest.
And yes, the book which we read “how to make friends and influence people” was seriously not just about listening, in my opinion it was rather about showing interest in others by small good deeds and manners, which all of us should have. For instance the representative of J&J did not spend hours talking to the junior sales man, he just waved and said hello!. You really should not waste someone’s time just because you think listening is going great!
P.S 1. I am totally in favor of listening practice and I am professional in it, I did my course in active listening 5 months ago, I am a volunteer at mental health website and I have listened to some 150 people there from all over the world. I like listening as long as I do not realize that you are a human! Because once you show yourself, you are going to be judged! And that my dear is so worse because I am so critical.
2. even if I do not listen I still know everyone who has a social media handle, I have super skills to rip timelines apart.
