“To be interesting, be interested.”

Ghulam Raza
Nov 3 · 2 min read

The first chapter of the book “How to win friends an influence people” by Dale Carnegie was a lot of actually is most informational lecture for me. Actually it is not about “I” and “me” anywhere but it is about “you” and “your’s”. It is a part of human nature that he wants to look beautiful, and we can make more friends by talking about them, their personality and a lot things we found that they are interested in.

Actually we never come out from our comfort zone and the other person that we are interacting with get bored and tries to keep away from us. I have a lot of research on this subject that you can make someone your infatuated by talking his personality not by binding your personality. A book named “How to make life beautiful” by “Dr. Abdul Rahman-al- Areefi” is a clear and concisely written book about how to get someone’s love, 49 different topic explained that how you can be special for someone and how you can escape from a critical condition.

“We cannot understand someone else’s ideas while we’re busy talking about our own”

I made a contact with my own friends by a personal number and they were unknown by that number and after the formal discussion I asked them that how you see life and also by giving importance I was able to know about their personal interests and information about then that I was unaware so far. So, it is that we have to escape from our personal zone to click information from other.

I remember a number of people who come across to a group started debating about them and they leave the group when they have nothing to tell and other members just restart their conversation as they took a break. It means you have to listen also if you want that someone follow you it is as necessary as you think you are important in your own eyes.

Here comes a reflection method, it means when you look a person laughing you automatically get a smile on your face this same case applies in interest method when someone found that you are taking interest in him, listening him carefully, replying his politely and patiently and giving compliment to his dress etc, he would automatically respecting you back.

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