5 Key Steps To Finding A New Mentor

The idea of having a mentor is becoming more popular whether for business, health, mental health or fitness reasons. And the advent of online mentoring means it is now possible to jump on FaceTime or Skype and seek advice from someone anywhere in the world.

Here are my top 5 tips for approaching online mentors, mentors in your company or people who you feel can help you be what you want to be or get to where you want to go.

1). Friend Of A Friend:

Use your network — the person you want to approach may not be in your immediate network but they might be in someone’s you know. So speak to your contacts and see if they have anyone in their network who you want to approach. Ask if they can introduce you or help you find a way to get in touch.

2). Write A List Of 30 People You Aspire To Be:

Make a list of people you admire: they may be smarter, more successful or have more experience but they must be someone who you think you can learn from. Try to contact them directly, using Twitter, LinkedIn or Instagram direct message. Let them know you would like their help or advice and ask if they would be prepared to meet you for a coffee.. (on you!).

3). Pay A Mentor:

Some people may not be keen on this but if you get the right mentor they can be invaluable so why not pay for it? For example, Dailymuse has a hub of people you can contact by a Skype call to ask for their advice. I appreciate not everyone will think this is the way to go but you shouldn’t rule it out without first investigating and assessing if this would work for you.

4). Attend Events Your Mentors Are Speaking At:

This DOES work! Try to attend events where one of the speakers is someone who you’d like to mentor you. Try to get some time with them after their presentation and ask if they would be open to mentoring you. I have recently found a new mentor using approach only a few weeks ago.

5). Search For People On Linkedin or Online

This one is a little harder if you don’t have the common connections you need but it’s always worth asking. Again, write a list of people who you think can help you and would like to meet and then approach them directly using LinkedIn or other platforms. As you know, it’s always a yes until it’s a no! However, do not give the impression you’re stalking them!!

  • Look at people who you admire on Twitter and view the list of who they’re following to see if any of them might be potential people you’d like to approach.
  • Instagram direct message is also a very untapped market, and this again offers a huge opportunity for you to contact people directly

Finding mentors can take time, and sometimes you do need to find the right connection which works for you both. Offering to FaceTime or Skype can be a good option because it’s usually easier for people to fit into their schedule. Bear in mind the mentor will want to know why they should work with you — mentoring has to be a two way street if it’s going to work properly. I’d be interested to hear if anyone has any other tips or feedback on how people get on using any of these approaches :).