Research shows that falling in love closely resembles addiction. New love can have similar effects on the brain as cocaine. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and relationship researcher, conducted a series of fascinating studies of the brain chemistry underlying new love. She found that serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine are crucially involved in the initial stages of romantic love in much the same way as they are in cocaine use.
Intense passionate love uses the same system in the brain that gets activated when a person is addicted to drugs: norepinephrine fills you with raucous energy, serotonin boosts your self-confidence, and dopamine generates a feeling of pleasure. New love is a kind of love addiction, but it’s not a pathological addiction. When you are falling in love desire replaces inhibition, you feel uplifted and more spontaneous and brave. Your dopamine levels skyrocket, your mood improves and you are more playful and fun.
You want more of it the next day. Because dopamine is activated by memory associations of certain actions with pleasure, the brain remembers the intense pleasure and wants it repeated. In other words, you start to crave, like a drug, the person you are in love with.
If you have had a history with addictions and are stepping into a new love, you may recognize the symptoms and mistakenly conclude that it’s your addictive personality at play.
Dear lover, please don’t treat Love as an addiction just because this is what you are familiar with. Your heart and your soul have their own needs. Honor them. Being in love is healing to the soul. Being in love is purifying. Being in love rejuvenates your system and washes away the impurities of negative emotional debris. Being in love makes you sensually and sexually alive. Being in love makes you orgasmic not only in the bedroom, but in life itself.
Honor your loving. Nourish your soul. Allow yourself to fall in love. Give into Love when it comes knocking on your door. Open the door widely and let Love in. Welcome it. Cherish it. Receive it.
Enjoy it while it lasts. Consider yourself lucky that Love has chosen YOU!
Love is The Great Goddess herself. Don’t close the door on Her. Don’t keep Her outside. Don’t push Her away. Don’t treat Her as an addiction. Invite Her in as a welcomed guest. Receive Her as a valuable gift. Worship Her as The Goddess that She is.
She will reward you by filling up your soul with joy, your body with renewed vigor, your blood with bubbling excitement, your mind with inspiration, your heart with warmth, and your days with kindness.
The world is a better place when we love.
Don’t try to change the world! Just let Love in. She will change the world for you.
Let Love permeate every cell of your being and re-energize every ray of light in your soul. Then you will know that you are alive.