This may upset some as I am a 41 year old stick figure. Seriously a stick. I’ve spent my entire life facing people who feel it is okay to point out my lack of womanly curves in detest. I’ve had men say ignorant things like, “you’d be beautiful if you had breasts” or woman daily mention “don’t you eat?” What are you 85 pounds? Always spoken with disgust. Seriously my own mother mentions how unhealthy I look. My own family ridicules my appearance. Over the years I took to dressing like a boy with long T-shirts, one size fits all to hide my lack of womanly figure. These people don’t realize their remarks are cutting to me and their body shaming only makes me dislike being in their general vicinity. I’m single after 15 years and at my divorce my then husband said to me, “now I can finally be with a real woman who has meat on her bones” that was 4 years ago.. Ouch! The rest of my 7 siblings are curvy.. Another ouch! I’m the baby and I’m the runt I like to say. I thought when I had my 1st child at 25 if grow some curves, NOT! I said after my 2nd child I’d grow some curves.. NOT! Child #2 left me thinner than child #1.. Ugh. I waited for the 30 year weight gain.. Didn’t happen. At 37 I got divorced among a very stressful, violent relationship. I’ll gain weight now and alas I put on 13 pounds finally and have maintained the weight. It’s still not enough for everyone I come in contact with. No one seems to notice that I’m a woman with a brain or that their words of disdain at my lack of curves only exacerbate my feelings of inadequacy. So now I’ll wait to be 50 to see if my childlike figure matures into womanhood. Among woman who would like to be thin, we trade ideas about them giving me some of their luscious curviness and we’d both be happy. I’ve finally made a whole new set of friends that accept me for me and appreciate me for my personality as I do them. YES, they’re all curvy and yet they call me beautiful. ☺️ those are the people I want in my life. I feel for you. It’s hell living in a body that the world seems to think is the only thing that matters and they feel okay pointing out the deficiencies or lack thereof. I become disgusted even at my age every time I have to deal with comments regarding my eating habits. I eat, I feel and I despise body shaming. Oh and lastly, I had 2 girls and both of them are much more curvy than I am. That’s another struggle for them and me. Now all 3 of us deal with comments comparing us physically. The struggle is real and it shouldn’t be.