This is so true. And it’s a painful reality for far too many people.
And it’s not just internal costs. There is pain and anguish. There’s also the damage the dishonesty does to our relationships. Nobody who knows us before we are our authentic selves actually likes or loves _us_.
They like or love the mask we wear.
Knowing that makes it so much harder to be authentic. What if they don’t love me anymore? What if they hate me for tricking them all this time?
It a painful feedback loop. Every day spent with friends and family who don’t really know us makes it just a tiny bit harder to finally let them.