Some of the folks below want to pretend that none of what you’ve written is true and have decided to attack you/how you write/terms you use instead. I’ve had enough sexual encounters to corroborate what’s written here. Even when trying to be supportive and helpful with regards to what would be “good for me”, many partners take that as them “not knowing what they’re doing” and get insulted. In my experience (& only mine) it’s predominately men who do this, but to be fair, I’ve also had a female partner be this way, too. RE: “cuddling”, I like it, majority of male partners want to roll over and go to sleep.
And yes, patriarchal society says penis>vagina. Male orgasm and satisfaction>than women’s. Insurance covers Viagra but not BC. Books, TV, and movies since forever are filled and fixated on the male growing-up, hard-on jokes/stories but basically nothing at all about the growing up and budding female sexuality or desires…because THOSE are seen as an “accessory” to patriarchal male sexuality. We’re treated to “dick-pics” as a new, everyday word. It’s highly disingenuous to pretend things in our society aren’t decidedly lopsided towards the celebration of male sexuality over women’s.
